Do you know I have 3 Monica's in my life?
I spent a brief period of time when I was younger feeling like I needed a name change...to a more common normal name. I remember wondering why couldn't have my parents named me Amy instead of relegating that fabulous name to my middle name? Anyway one of my best friends ended up being an Amy, that would have just been confusing so its just as well I made peace with it.
Until 5 years ago I had never met another Monica apart from the beautiful lady and best friend of my mother to whom I was named after. She is one cool Monica to be named after.
Now in 99 days a very special Monica is about to become my sister-in-law. She's a petite, curly haired Latina firecracker with a delicious laugh and a wicked sense of humour. She's delightful and talented and I can't wait to be at this wedding because I can't think of a better person for my brother.
I also more recently met another Monica, who even more coincidentally has shared the same breast cancer journey as me. She is a very very smart lady with a lot of good advice to give, mixed in with a lot of goofy laughter. This week while relaxing in her garden in the sun and a coffee she gave me some food for thought about my upcoming surgery. Some very wise and decent advice.
So I went home and thought about it.
Then my dad talked to me and said the same thing.
Then my someone else said the same thing.
Don't you love when something that has been weighing on your mind and you need to make a decision it helps to make it when people are all on the same wavelength? And the advice is good?
Well anyway, the upshot of all this rambling is that I have decided to put off my surgery until after March 2013. This way I can enjoy our trip of a lifetime to watch my brother marry his Monica in Santiago without having to worry about pain or fatigue.
The boob can wait; creating precious family memories is the top of the list of my life.
I feel really at peace and good about this now - its been a long road of waiting and re-evaluating. There will be an end to it eventually!